Miscarried.
“Mis” means “wrong.” There’s shame right there in the word. But through miscarriage, stillbirth, or any type of loss, there’s nothing wrong with you.
What if instead of blaming ourselves, our bodies, our actions, burying it, not talking about it, feeling weak or less than, we focus on how it changed us and shaped us. How going through a loss is the opposite of weakness—it’s the strongest we’ll ever have to be and that strength stays with us always.
SAY IT WITH US:
I didn’t miscarry. What really happened is Thiscarried. This body. This uterus. This mind. This heart.
The following content contains real people and their experiences with pregnancy and infant loss.
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“After labor, the hospital policy is that you have to be escorted out in a wheelchair. I remember telling the nurse I was going to walk out. I needed to walk myself, standing as tall as I could, one foot in front of the other. I will never forget that hallway. I’m sure about that.”
—Kristin, on leaving the hospital after her daughter was stillborn at 27 weeks
“I would lie awake wondering if I didn’t cook my food well enough or took the wrong prenatals or put too much pressure on my body during a run. In my darkest moment, I begged my husband to leave me so he could be with someone who could give him kids. He picked me up off the floor, held me in his arms, and told me he’d be me with me without kids over anyone else. I love him so much for that.”
—Judy, on shame during infertility and loss
“After praying about the loss, I knew without a doubt that I was going to be a mother.”
—Ashley, on feeling empowered through infertility and loss
“Today, most days are good days. But then, out of nowhere, something will trigger me and I’ll be right back in that dark hole. It happens when I least expect it—like when I see a mom and her daughter playing at the beach, or butterflies stop me in my tracks in my every day life, or my son tells me he played with his brother and sister in his dreams. I am so grateful to be pregnant again, but that brings an entire new influx of emotions.”
—Alex, on life after losing her twins at 20 weeks and 22 weeks.
You’re not in this alone
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